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The "I" in "I love you" means a lot of things. It's obviously a referral to self and it holds a certain area of standing. It's a commitment. Saying "I" when you say that you love someone refers to the fact that at this stage in the growth of yourself, you fully accept the fact that you have a certain level of acceptance and softness for them.

We don't like to say the "I" in "I love you."  It's too much. It means that people can use it against you then, that they are expecting you to act with love at all times after that. That's why we sign off cards, texts, etc. with "love you."

The "I" is so scary to us because we don't like the commitment that comes with it. We don't like to be vulnerable, to be open to the idea that we are completely susceptible to our feelings and emotions after that statement. Saying the "I" in "I love you" means we have to acknowledge everything about, not only the other person, but ourselves as well. That's way too scary, so we say "love you" instead. I think sometimes that it would be nicer if we could just commit to loving someone, and if we don't want to say that we love them or if we don't love them, that we don't pretend or say it half-heartedly. 

catch you later,

Karleigh

"Freedom is not the absence of commitments, but the ability to choose - and commit myself to. - what is best for me." // Paulo Coelho, The Zahir